Archive for October, 2006

Language…

Wednesday, October 11th, 2006

For the past months, we had this Nihonggo class in our company..  As an employee of a Japanese company, learning Nihonggo is a necessity.. I had my nihonggo in college but gosh, i could only remember counting and introducing myself as well as some words… but it is hard to speak the language..

So there we were, sitting in the conference room waiting for our teacher to arrive.. according to them she is level 4 certified (highest level of Nihonggo Language study) to my surprise, she was a spanish-looking mestiza..  When she started speaking, she really speaks like she is a japanese minus the controlled voice.. and there started our months and months of study on reading, writing, listening and speaking.. it was quite hard to juggle work, travel and language lessons 3 times a week. I usually end up groggy from an out of town trip hurrying back to the office to attend my classes.. but yes, it paid off… i can read a bit, understand a bit and well, still trying to speak a bit of nihonggo.. speaking is the hardest part for someone who has been speaking cebuano, tagalog and english all her life.. but i am learning.. and with this learning is the hope that language barrier will be minimized.. i look forward to expressing my thoughts in pure nihonggo soon.. for the meantime, i just have to live with the japanese dictionary, online translator and my japanese OS that helps me type japanese characters to remember them..

learning.. a continuous process that i would always want to undergo.. i earned my first nihonggo language profeciency certificate and i aim for higher levels.. Gambaremasu!

I Will Be Happy…

Wednesday, October 11th, 2006

A yoga teacher friend of mine sent me this email long time ago and everytime i read this, it constantly reminds me that happiness is a journey.. not a destination.. it is a choice, not a chance.. Read on…

I’ll be happy when…

by: Prakash Bisht

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are.

After that, we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy  when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer  car, when we are able to go on a nice vacation or when we retire. The truth is there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with
challenges.

It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.  Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to  spend your time with … and remember that time waits for no one.

So, stop waiting …

Until your car or home is paid off.
Until you get a new car or home.
Until your kids leave the house.
Until you go back to school.
Until you finish school.
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married.
Until you get a divorce.
Until you have kids.
Until you retire.
Until summer..
Until spring.
Until winter.
Until fall.
Until you die.

There is no better time than right now to be happy.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination. So work like you don’t need money, love like you’ve never been hurt, and, dance like no one’s watching.
I just did……Cheers!

FILIPINO OF FAITH BY THE WAY

Sunday, October 8th, 2006

FILIPINO OF FAITH BY THE WAY

The Philippine Star 12/19/2005

We keep on paying lip service to the catchword, "Faith in the Filipino." In this Christmas season of hope – and also sadness – this faith and confidence in ourselves too often falls short of being justified. However, here’s one story which I must tell. This incident took place last Thursday in the late afternoon. I was rushing home in my car, an X-5, from my last meeting in Makati – already far behind schedule, since my next appointment, after a change of clothes, was in Malacang. My vehicle broke down in the mounting rush-hour traffic on the Paseo de Roxas, not far from the corner of Buendia. There I was, frantically trying to hail a cab in vain while the avenue was crawled alongside, almost gridlocked. My desperation must have been all over my face. I had fruitlessly attempted calling my Stargate office on Ayala Avenue , then my associates and friends nearby. I needed a car badly to rescue me from the corner where I had been stranded. But nobody could be contacted. Then a white Chevrolet Ventura pulled up to the curb. The young man at the wheel leaned over, his window rolled down, and asked: "Can I help you, sir?" I blurted out, "Yes – my car over there broke down. I must get home in a hurry! Can you bring me somewhere where I can find a taxicab?" The fellow smiled and said: "Hop in, Sir I will drive you home." I scrambled aboard, thankful to the kind stranger, and God – and for my good fortune. In retrospect, I wonder why it had never occurred to me he might be an armed hold-up man. I guess it was the disarming nature of his smile, his earnest approach. Yet now could anyone be so generous as to stop in the middle of traffic, then offer a total stranger a ride all the way to his home? He hadn’t even asked how far away I lived; he’d made the offer without hesitation. When we were underway, I asked to shake his hand and asked for his name, "My name is Alex," he simply said. ‘I’m Max," I replied, then fished in my pocket and offered him my card. He peered at it, then exclaimed: "Wow. It’s an honor! I read you every day!" "Now. Alex, you owe me your card in return." I said. Stopped at a light, he took out his wallet, got one and politely handed it to me. It read: Alexander L. Lacson, above which was his firm’s title: "Malcolm Law", underneath that, "A Professional Partnership." By golly, I had been rescued by a lawyer. There you are. Somehow, when faith in the Filipino wavers, a Filipino comes along to restore your faith. Restore it? So surprise you with his kindness and generosity. This is an experience – and a shining gesture – I’ll never forget. * * * I finally told Alex I was headed for Greenhills. He grinned. "By coincidence, since I’m taking you there, my destination happens to lie not far away – I’m headed for Wack-Wack subdivision to give a talk at a Christmas party." "Why?" I exclaimed. "In addition to being a lawyer, are you also a preacher?" He smiled even more merrily and explained that he had written a little book. It was on the car seat beside him, and I picked it up. It was entitled: "12 Little Things Every Filipino Can Do to Help Our Country." Alex had his little volume (108 pages) published earlier this year by the Alay Pinoy Publishing House in Quezon City , and it had sold out in its first printing within three weeks. The second and third printings were about to sell out, too. No, he wasn’t selling it through any bookshop, the biggest book shop (unnamed here) wanted too big a portion of its possible earnings, but I told them I wanted the proceeds to go to a scholarship foundation for the needy." So, Lacson has been selling his book out of his office and out of his home. The dedication of the slim tome reveals his sincerity. It says: "To my Creator, who has blessed me with so much, and to my Country, which yearns for love from its people." As we drove up EDSA, Alex said: "I read your mother’s book, ‘A Woman So Valiant,’ too – and I loved it!" Can you beat that? My mama had written that book of hers in longhand, on yellow pad paper not long before she died at the age of 81 on October 16, 1990 – and belatedly, we had published it last year. Astoundingly, it had been a runaway bestseller, without publicity, and had sold out in the National Bookstores. My sister, Mrs. Mercy S. David messaged me when she arrived from New York that the Japanese were now planning to transcribe the autobiography into Japanese and publish it in Tokyo, as a chronicle of what happened to a Filipino family in the war years (and during Japanese military occupation). The proposed Japanese title, "A Valiant Mother and Her Nine Children." But that’s another story, far removed from today’s inspiring tale about Alex Lacson’s Christian spirit and generosity. One thing Alex said demonstrated he had really read Mom’s book. He remarked that the thing he vividly remembered in Mama’s memoirs was that, in spite of our poverty, she had determined: "I don’t want my children to feel poor." Thus, one of us or two of us in turn had been taken by her, on her meager earnings as a seamstress, to eat at a good restaurant. The "classy" restaurant of the time, Alex recalled from its mention in mama’s book, was The Aristocrat. How lives intersect in this spinning world. To get to the end of the "rescue" saga, Alex Lacson drove me to my home in Greenhills, and I noticed he never broke a traffic rule. I was tempted, in my selfish agitation to get home and get my tuxedo for the State dinner in the Palace, then dash over to Malacang, to cut corners, such as push into the opposite lane when stuck not far from the Buchanan Gate, in order to sneak into the Gate. But Lacson calmly awaited his turn in traffic . Obey the law and obey the rules were obviously the bedrock of his "12 Things" credo. In any event, getting to Malacang in the end was only the bonus. Meeting someone like Alex Lacson was the real miracle . * * * Alexander Ledesma Lacson, it turned out, modest as he was in bearing, was a graduate of the University of the Philippines College of Law, 1996, and took up graduate studies at the Harvard Law School in Cambridge, Mass. (Good old Harvard Yard, by gosh). His wife, Pia Pe – it turned out even more amazingly – is the daughter of an old friend, Teddy Pe from Palawan ! She, too, is a lawyer – U.P. 1993 – a legal counsel for Citibank. They established a foundation together to help underprivileged children through school, and are now subsidizing 27 young scholars in different public schools in Alex’s native Negros Occidental. The reason Alex had been headed for Wack-Wack was the fact that the officers and employees of a company named Resins Inc., after buying 1,000 copies of his book had invited him to give the "homily" at their Christmas party. This was not a small group – the company had 600 employees, waiting for his "word" that night. Alex, it struck me from our conversation, is an eloquent and devout Catholic. He believes God must have destined our people for some great role – why, in all history, he reasoned, were we Filipinos the "only Christian nation in Asia ?" One thing is certain: He and his wife Pia practice their Christianity – and live it. Four years ago, he and his wife had a serious discussion about migrating to the US or Canada because the Philippines , as a country appeared hopeless since things only got worse year after year. They wanted to know if their children (they have three, one boy and two girls) would be better off staying in our country or abroad in the next 20 years. Pia and Alex had asked themselves the question: "Is there hope for the Philippines to progress in the next 20 years?" They reasoned: If the answer is Yes, then they would stay. If it was No, they would leave and relocate abroad while they were still young and energetic. There were long discussions. One day, the realization, Alex recalls, struck them: the answer to that question was in themselves. The country would improve, Pia and Alex finally understood, if they and every other Filipino did something about it. Leaving the Philippines was not the solution. As Lacson put it in his book: "The answer is in us as a people; that hope is in us as a people." When I read the book afterwards, I discovered that many important people had endorsed it. But these encomiums are not needed. Alex laughed when I quipped that he must be one of the wealthy Lacsons from Negros Occidental, like my classmates and schoolmates in the Ateneo. He cheerfully, and proudly, said that he was "a poor Lacson." His mother, he pointed out, had been a public school teacher in Cabangcalan. No, he’s not poor – his richness are in his friends, and in the heart. Here are, in outline, his 12 commandments: 1) Follow traffic rules. Follow the law. 2) Whenever you buy or pay for anything, always ask for an official receipt. 3) Don’t buy smuggled goods. Buy local. Buy Filipino. (Or, if you read the book, he suggests: 50-50). 4) When you talk to others, especially foreigners speak positively about us and our country. 5) Respect your traffic officer, policeman and soldier. 6) Do not litter. Dispose your garbage properly. Segregate. Recycle. Conserve. 7) Support your church. 8) During elections, do your solemn duty. 9) Pay your employees well. 10) Pay your taxes. 11) Adopt a scholar or a poor child. 12) Be a good parent. Teach your kids to follow the law and love our country. These are the 12 things every Filipino can do to help our country. At first blush, they seem simple. When you study them more closely, they are difficult to do. But all of us, together can do them

The Morning After..

Sunday, October 8th, 2006

What should one do after a tragic storm that has ripped off everything including loved ones? What should one do upon learning that his loved one has departed and will never see the person again? What should one do upon learning that he lost his job knowing that his wife is about to give birth and he has a house mortgage to pay, two other kids to send to school? How should one react to the news that his wife just fled with her lover? Or a wife just learned that all the while that she and her kids have been waiting for her husband to come home, he IS home with his lover? How would you feel when you learned that your long estranged aunt is sick and she has no one to rely on with the fact that she is single and at a retirable age? Or when you realize that work pressures are not just mere pressures but actually pressured for you to surrender and give up? What will you do if you loose a major deal? How can you take some of the pain of someone very dear to you who has just lost someone dearest to him? How can you comfort him knowing that no amount of comfort can ease the pain?

God is doing a lot of major "re-designing" lately… Harvests in his garden here and there, tragedies, pains, calamities, disasters and deaths.. All these have surrounded me for a month and it’s quite a mix of emotions to contain.. I have always wanted to write it all down but it has been quite hard to single out each feeling and write about it..

On my flight back to Manila, I saw this beautiful sunrise over Cebu.. I was on top of the clouds that partially show the beautiful islands beneath.. The sunrise was marvelous.. It gave me that inspiration that after all the darkness, dawn comes and a new day is about to unfold.. No great promises that this morning will take away all the pain and fix all that has been damaged, but I see this morning as a chance to pick up the pieces of what was left behind and start anew. No promises still that it will be a better day but I aim for it… and as i see the sun rising and i think of what i left back in cebu and what i am about to face in Manila, i thought that this will be a better day not just for me but for everyone for the reason that all of us who sees this marvelous sunrise and wakes up to this new day means that we are still alive in this world.. a world that might be full of pain, trials, sorrows and heartaches but this is also a world where we have the chance to live, to see and experience life.. God’s greatest gift to all of us.. without all these pains, we cannot be stronger.. without the hardships we can never be better for the future and without the trials we can never be stronger..

I pray that today will be a better day, not only for me but for all the people around me.. I pray that this day will be the first step to move on with life.. after the heavy storm, the great tragedy and the painfuls deaths of loved ones that surrounds me.. may this sunshine be the light to the path of people who are left groping in the dark due to the loss of their loved ones.. may this sunshine be a constant reminder to all who read this blog that AFTER EVERY STORM, THE SUN WILL SHINE.. A NEW TOMORROW WILL UNFOLD.. A NEW BEGINNING.. A CHANCE AT LIFE.. AND A SYMBOL OF GOD’S LOVE FOR ALL OF US.. HIS CHILDREN…

Have a blissful and wonderful week ahead..